Family Ark Ministries

August 24, 2010

DID YOU GET YOUR BEAUTY SLEEP?

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Psalm 127:2  “It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.” 

Ah yes, sleep.  Something that all humans must have.  However, in today’s society there are large segments of the population that have problems with sleeping.  While I am not going to delve into the neurological, pathological or any physiological etiology of sleep; I do want to address the psychological, emotional and spiritual components of sleep deprivation and sleep excess.

How much sleep you get determines not only how you feel physically, but how you feel emotionally.  Your behavior and relationships are directly affected by how much sleep you get.   If you are sleepy, you snap more quickly at others.  You are more irritable and quicker to explode in anger.  You have a short fuse.  You won’t get as much accomplished because you drag through your day.  There are physical, emotional and spiritual reasons for not sleeping well.

The first place to look would be in the physical realm and what you are taking into your body before bedtime.  Too much caffeine? Too much stimulation such as exercising at night, watching certain TV shows or playing video games can cause you to be hyper and not readily fall asleep.  Some workout and weight loss supplements can cause you to get poor sleep because of their ingredients.  Think about what you do after 7 pm in the evening.  If there is nothing you can think of; talk with your physician.  Your doctor needs to rule out any medical conditions that can cause you to not sleep enough or to not get enough of what they call “deep sleep”.  Everything from sleep apnea, to heart troubles to acid reflux and beyond can cause sleep deprivation.  This is easily remedied by the care of a professional.

If there is no medical reason for the sleep problems, then you will want to look at the emotional reasons next.  Worry and stress are the number one cause from the emotional standpoint.  You lay awake at night worrying about things that happened, things that might happen or things that will never happen.  You will have to start studying the Word more and praying more to begin to grow emotionally.  Philippians 4:6.  You can also buy a Christian book that helps you learn to combat anxiety, fear, worry etc… from a scriptural standpoint.   Some sleep problems are temporary due to a crisis in your life.  Divorce, death of a loved one, kids in trouble etc…  While these cause sleep problems, with grace and growth eventually you should return to a normal sleep pattern. 

Spiritually speaking, sin can cause sleep problems.  My dad used to always joke with people saying, “ If you had a clean conscience you could sleep.”  While he meant it as a joke, there is some truth to this.  Guilt or shame associated with personal sin, or the sins of others, can disturb your sleep.  Just look at the people in the Bible.  The way to deal with your own sin is to confess and repent.  The way to deal with others who are sinning or whom have wronged you is called forgiveness.  Forgiveness of others is the single greatest sleeping pill in the world. 

Sleep affects our children and family.  Stress, anger, irritability and general harmony and peace in the home are directly related to whether or not each family member is getting enough sleep.  There are many whiny, irritable little kids in this country, who may not need medication; but actually just need a more appropriate number of  hours of sleep.  Parents who do not give children regular bed times that allow 8 to 10 hours of sleep per night,  ( depending upon the age of the child) may find all types of out-of-control behavior that could be remedied by more sleep.  You cannot make up for lost sleep on the weekends.  Children who do not get enough sleep through the school week, and then try and sleep all day Saturday are hurting their growth and development.  While it does make them temporarily feel better; the muscle growth, bone growth and neurological components of the human body need regular sustained sleep.  Everyone has heard about the studies that children do better when they eat before school. This is true. And that was the impetus behind the school breakfast programs.  However, studies now show that children who sleep well also make better grades and perform better on all levels.  Some schools now are considering a later start.  Kids, even and especially teens, need lots of sleep.

Too much sleep is rare for most folks, but if you can’t function with the routine of daily living because you sleep too much, then you definitely need to see a doctor because you very well may have a physical condition. If not, then you are probably clinically depressed and need to see a doctor.   Either way, see a doctor if people tell you that you sleep too much.  Each person however, needs different amounts of sleep.  Most adults need 7-8 hours of sleep. Some are fine with 6.  Less than 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep begins to cause problems.  Remember, when you can’t sleep: Don’t count sheep, but talk to the Shepherd.

June 17, 2010

WORRIED ABOUT ANXIETY?

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Anxiety can be debilitating.  Everyone has their times when they worry.  But this is far more involved than that.  Anxiety feels like you are being ripped apart inside.  You focus so much mental energy on worrying that it leaves you drained.  You worry about worrying too much.  You beat yourself up over this.  It wreaks havoc on your sleep.  It leaves you as an emotional wreck.  You lay awake worrying about things.  During the day, you have obsessive thought patterns.  At its’ greatest depth, anxiety can become an anxiety disorder.  If you develop this, you can suffer from panic attacks, and be so anxious that you begin to not function out in society very well.  Crowds can bother you.  You worry about death all the time for yourself or a loved one.  This is not something you can just snap out of like some people think.

So, now you know that you are not crazy.  What a relief, because it sure feels like it some days.  You can put the bat down and quit beating yourself up. Now you can begin to start work on attaining victory over this constant, daily need to worry.  Remember Romans 8:37.  “Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.”  You can, with the help of Jesus, overcome this problem in your life.  You must believe in your heart that it is truly possible to attain victory.  It may not seem like it because you have lived with it so long, but there is nothing impossible with God, as it states in Luke 1:37.  This is the first step.  Believe that it is possible to attain victory.

You probably also wonder where anxiety came from.  No secular psychotherapist will tell you this, but God gives us all personalities.  You can watch a bunch of kids playing, and you can pick out which kids are going to grow up and be the anxious ones.  Your personality was given to you by God for a reason.  Don’t fight it.  Learn to use it for good.  People who worry a lot or who are anxious generally have personalities that are very caring.  Most worry warts are caring people.  You are a loving person.  You also are a very observant person.  If you were not paying attention to all that was around you, then you wouldn’t worry so much.  If you didn’t care so deeply about those around you, then you would not be anxious.  While it is not healthy, nor holy to live in a state of anxiety, it stems from something good within you.  You are a loving, caring person.

Learn to breathe deeply.  When you start feeling stressed out and anxious, take some deep breaths.  At the same time, do some spiritual deep breathing.  Find some scripture and memorize it.  Find something that offers you comfort.  I like Philippians 4:6,7.  I like Psalm 46:10 and verse 1.  Hebrews 13:5,6  Philippians 4:13.  Romans 8:37.  These are ones I repeat when I am stressed out. Please feel free to use your own scripture or you can use these. Putting your mind on God being in control will help immediately.  The deep breathing will also help.  I call this physical and spiritual deep breathing.  It helps.

Build in a panic floor.  This is not the worst day ever.  God has always caused you to survive every day so far, no matter what happened in your life.  His grace has brought you safe thus far, and His grace will lead you home.  Just tell yourself that no matter what happens, you are still saved.  You are still going to heaven.  God is still for you even if others are not.  This leads into the next item to help you work on your anxiety.

Control your thinking.  You may not realize it, but all humans have control over their thinking.  We are creatures of habit.  We all have habits in the way we think, and the way we perceive things.  This will be the hardest battle.  The battle for your thought life.  Satan wants your thought life and so does God.  That is why scripture tells us to take every thought captive to the Lord.  II Corinthians 10:5.  It takes persistence and work.  You have to re-frame your thinking.  As an example:  This problem I am facing is a growth  opportunity.  It is a grace event.  God will give me the grace to get through it.  I will be a stronger person because of it.  Because there is an empty tomb, I can face tomorrow.  I may not know what tomorrow will bring, but I know the one who holds tomorrow in His hands.  He loves me.  He accepts me. He loves me more than I love myself.  God wants me to be successful in life for His glory. He will meet all my needs.  Because of the resurrection, Christ has all power and all victory for all time.  Because Christ is in me, I now face every problem from a position of victory.  Victory in Jesus is not just an old song. It is a way of life for me.  Nothing can defeat me.  Not even death.  I will live forever in heaven.  You may know these truths, but you must start believing them by repeating them over and over again until it becomes part of you.

Pray.  Pray for a specific fruit to be born in you.  The fruits of the spirit listed in Galatians 5 include peace and joy.  Ask God to develop those in you. Don’t get frustrated when it doesn’t happen instantly.  It takes time.  One day at a time.  Strive for gradual improvement, then steady improvement, and finally to consistent improvement.

All of those statements up above are not feel good counseling statements that man came up with.  They are scripture from the inerrant truth of God’s Word.  Dwell on these.  Increase your prayer life.  Linger in your prayers.  With God’s help you should be able to get a grip on your anxiety.  God bless you on your journey.

December 17, 2009

EVERYTHING CAN CHANGE THIS YEAR

Filed under: Christianity, Miscellaneous — admin @ 4:38 pm

Did you know that anything can change this year for you? Did you know that everything can change for you this year? It doesn’t matter if things have been going bad for you lately, the scripture tells us that God is able to do anything. He is able to do ALL things. (Phil. 4:13). Nothing is too hard for Him. (Jeremiah 32:17) Seeking God’s help can cause all kinds of changes for the better to occur in your life. You just have to believe! Not in a fantasy like a Santa. But in a reality like THE God of the universe. Not trusting your future to dumb luck like in a lottery, but trusting your future to an almighty God who holds the future in His hands.
God has a very specific plan for every human on earth. And it is for good, not for evil. It is to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11. God loves you. He cares totally about your well-being. Get in on His plan for your life. You can conquer anything with God. Once you are a Christian, you don’t just cope with your stress. You don’t just manage your anger. Nope. In all of these things, you are more than a conqueror through him who loved you. Romans 8:37. But this is not a magic kingdom. That is in Florida. This is the Kingdom of Christ, and in this kingdom; he desires for you to “do”. Philippians 4:9. Faith without works is dead. So, you might have to actually get off the couch and take up your cross and follow Him. Learn – receive – DO! Don’t wait around for a miracle to be dumped into your lap while you watch your favorite reality show. Get up, start serving, praying, praising and watch your very own show come to reality. God will do miracles in your life. Believe it.
1. Last night ended at midnight and today is a whole new day. You have to wake up every morning and see the potential of a living God who can do all things through you and for you. No matter what happened yesterday, today is a brand new day. This is a day that the Lord hath made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. Yesterday or last week might have been painful, disappointing, hurtful or just plain yucky. But the worst thing we can do as humans is to sit around contemplating what a miserable hard time we are having. It isn’t ever going to change unless you change your mental attitude.
Attitude is everything. After you choose Jesus as your savior, the most important choice you make every day, is your choice of attitude. It is more important than your education, your job, or lack of one, your bank account etc… You will mentally choose every day what kind of day you will have. If you choose to have a rejoicing attitude,
(Philippians 4:4), it does not mean you won’t have problems that day. It means you will go through your problems with a different perspective. You will go through all of life much easier and happy if you have a right attitude and look for the good in all of it. Everybody in this life is going to have troubles. That is the reality of living in a sinful, broken world. Since we are all going to have troubles anyway, we might as well choose to go through them with Jesus. Sure beats trying to go through struggles on your own. He can give you hope for tomorrow. He can give you peace that passes your understanding. (Philippians 4:7). He can give you strength to go on. (Philippians 4:13).
2. It doesn’t matter what you did , or who you are. It matters who you become. Every choice you make this year will determine who you are. The choices we make, make us. You are actually becoming the person that your choices reflect. You can choose to be bitter, negative, depressed and totally self-absorbed about your troubles. Then, that will determine the type of person you are this year. But you have a choice. You could be determined, strengthened, find courage, find hope and grow through your troubles to be a better person in the long run. Those choices also will determine what kind of person you become. It doesn’t matter if you are poor. Your daddy is rich. I mean your heavenly Father owns it all, and He will give generously to you from His riches. Philippians 4:19.
Are you catching on. You can sit around feeling sorry for yourself over your sad circumstances, or you can rise above it. You can let other people label you and look down on you, or you can look up and realize God will never discourage you. If you are a Christian, you are not dumb, depressed, divorced, etc… You are wonderfully made,
(Psalm 139:14), crowned with glory and honor (Psalm 8:5) and a prince or princess of a kingdom that will never end. (II Corinthians 6:18).
This new year can bring about new changes. Any day. Any moment. God is waiting on you to join Him in a glorious journey of faith. So, what are you waiting for. Just believe!
Get up. Praise Him. Thank Him. Seek Him. Lift your head up. Smile. Be confident in who you are because of who is in you. Philippians 1:6. Now- GO FORTH!

November 17, 2009

It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year

Filed under: Family, Miscellaneous, Uncategorized — admin @ 5:51 pm

Ah, yes. It is Christmas time. Family. Friends. Food. Fellowship. It’s a wonderful thing. Of course, the most important part of Christmas is the essence of its’ existence. It is the time of the year that Christians choose to celebrate the miraculous birth of our beloved Savior, Jesus Christ. The savior of the world. The King of kings. Immanuel.

I would like to share some tips with you so that you might have a more enjoyable holiday time. There is no magic to enjoying the holidays. It is a choice you will make.

Tip Number One – Do not carry around an organized plan in your head of how the holidays are suppose to unfold according to your desires. Planning certain meals, doing certain events with the family etc… are all well and good. But life happens somewhere along the way. Weather changes travel plans. People get sick. You cannot control these events. If you have dreamed in your head for days ahead of the holiday, how it is going to play out, then you are very disappointed when it doesn’t go according to plan. You don’t want to be a “controller” in the family. Yes, it would be nice if everyone wanted to do what you had planned. But sometimes, people don’t share the same vision you do. You have to let it go. We all must allow other people to enjoy their holidays the way they want to. Some of us are active people. Some of us are more sitters. Both are okay. My wife and I can lay in bed at night and dream of sugar plums dancing in our head. However, we both have different dreams of how to spend the holidays. While we both work together to meet each other’s desires; they are different. She dreams of doing absolutely nothing. Sitting all day would be a bang up holiday for her. I dream of one giant fireworks display after another. We communicate our desires. We share our thoughts. We make plans together. We do things that not only accommodate each other, but plans that will accommodate our family and friends.

Tip Number Two – Attitude is a choice. You will make your holiday miserable for yourself and others if you choose to. Or it can be merry and bright regardless of where you are, or what is going on in your life. Your choice of attitude is the most important decision to make every morning. A cheerful, smiling attitude is the nicest gift you could give to those around you. Unwrap a smile and put it on!

Tip Number Three – It is a balancing act with children. On the one hand, you need to allow children to enjoy their holidays doing things they want to do. Some kids will want to just relax and play video games or sleep in. Others will want to visit friends or go snow skiing. As much as is reasonable, allow them to do some things that they want to do. On the other hand, children can be encouraged to do family things. Some kids don’t want to spend meals or holiday time with family. But it is important that we pass on a sense of stability and heritage to our children. If encouragement doesn’t work, then you can insist that they do some things. You are the parent. You are the loving authority in their life. If they don’t want to go to grandma’s to eat, then you explain it nicely of how this is what the family will be doing. You might say, “ I know this is not what you want to do. But life is not always about doing what we want. You are part of a family and we spend time together as a family. You will go with us. You don’t have to like everything we do, but I will expect a decent attitude out of you with the things we do. Go with a different attitude and you might be surprised how much you end up liking it. I will expect you to honor me in this request.”

Tip Number Four – Everyone doesn’t have to be happy during the holidays. Please, don’t dampen your enthusiasm over the celebration of the birth of Christ. However, you must remember that not everyone has the same life experiences you do. If someone at church says, “ Oh we don’t get together. We don’t decorate with lights etc…” Don’t come back with: “Oh why not! I can’t believe you don’t do that. We do in our family. I never heard of such a thing.” Don’t crush someone. Maybe they grew up in an abusive or dysfunctional home. Holidays were horror days for them. Drunkenness, abuse, verbal atrocities. These are their memories. While everyone can start new memories, maybe they just don’t get as excited as you do because of the history. Let them be. And if someone has experienced serious illness or death in the family, it is called survival. We don’t have to do the traditional thing this year. We don’t have to do anything that anyone puts on us. The goal during these trial years is to just survive. And none of the rest of us should be judgmental, or force someone to be happy. Scripture tells us to not sing songs to a heavy heart.

Tip Number Five – Don’t let Christmas past haunt Christmas present. With Jesus, all things are made new. None of us can go back and make a brand new start, but all of us can start today to make a brand new ending. Maybe you had a bad childhood. Maybe you suffered a loss. Maybe you didn’t do all the fun memory building when your kids were still at home. Did you know you can always start new memories? New traditions. You can at any given year, change what you did or didn’t do in the past, and start new beginnings. Bake some memories. Share your joy of Jesus with others. If not your family, go find someone in a nursing home or hospital to share it with. With Christ, behold all things are new. We celebrate the birth of Christ, and therefore, because of Christ, we can change our celebrations to one of peace, joy, doing fun things and precious memory building. If you love Jesus, then love others around that He brings into your life and you can’t help but have a blessed holiday. Because the bottom line is this: It isn’t so much all the things we do at Christmas, but it is sharing the love of Christ – that He gives us – with those He has brought around us. That’s a merry Christmas

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